Helpful resources in fighting porn addiction

Note: This morning I edited this 3-year-old post, because one of the resources I originally mentioned no longer exists, and another I can simply no longer recommend as I’ve learned a bit more about the man who runs it. Both resources have been removed from the list. -9/27/2017

I don’t have lot of time today, but wanted to offer a few resources that were helpful to me on my journey toward breaking pornography addiction and moving toward chastity.

1. Your Brain on Porn

This site looks at pornography addiction from a scientific perspective, helping the addict understand why it is so difficult to break this cycle of addiction and offering a strategy for “rebooting” your brain through a 90 day period of refraining from artificial sexual stimuli.

The good: For me, having a 90-day target was very helpful, in that it gave me a reason to push through periods of heavy temptation, knowing things would get somewhat easier after a while.

The bad: The site is not written from a Catholic perspective, or really any moral perspective at all. Pornography addiction is treated as a problem problem not because it is immoral in itself, but because it can be disruptive to other areas of one’s life. The end-game for this site is breaking the addictive cycle, not pursuing chastity and rebuilding one’s relationship with God.

2. Your Brain Rebalanced

This is a forum that was originally linked to yourbrainonporn.com, but YBOP seems to have opted to push another forum instead at rebootnation.org. Nevertheless, Your Brain Rebalanced remains an active forum and, in my experience, has benefits and problems similar to those of Your Brain on Porn.

The good: Users (primarily men) post their own journals of their experiences in trying to break the cycle of pornography addiction, and can post within one another’s journals to offer encouragement and support. Users are grouped by age and gender, which helps make the feedback a little more relevant. Through regular participation on this site, I had a sense of accountability — and extra incentive to ride out temptation, and a place to go for support.

The bad: Again, this is not a Catholic Web site, and chastity and holiness are not necessarily among the goals of participants. While there are some Christian and even Catholic users, non-Catholic behavior is frequently endorsed. I recall one active user who seemed hell-bent on bashing the Church at every opportunity. (The irony is that he hadn’t been to Church in ages, yet blamed the Church for the fact that he felt guilty about using pornography.)

3. Daily Strength

Note: The original review below was written based on my experience three years ago. The site has since been completely retooled and, in my opinion, may be less helpful than it once was. Most of the longtime participants have moved on and from what I’ve seen, it now tends to have more of a revolving door of participants.

Daily Strength has forums for just about every medical, psychological or social ailment on can think of, including Sex/Pornography Addiction.

The good: There are a handful of regular, longtime participants to this forum with traditional views on sexual morality.

The bad: It doesn’t have an enormous level of participation, and there are those who seem to step in only to undermine the goals of the forum, posting “pleas for help” that strike me as being possible lures for addicts. (I’d provide examples, but I don’t want my examples to serve as triggers.) It can also be depressing at times, because there are many short-timers who post about how miserable they are and how badly the want to stop, who then disappear and are never heard from again.

In addition, the usual advice is to join Sex Addicts Anonymous or Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. I’m not a big fan of what I perceive as a tendency of 12-step groups to define people by their addictions, and I’m even less convinced that pornography addiction is of the same nature as sexual addiction involving other people.

 

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About Cimachol

A Catholic revert who struggles with depression and wrestled with pornography addiction for decades before overcoming it. I try to help other people do the same.
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One Response to Helpful resources in fighting porn addiction

  1. Michael Schleyer says:

    I really like how you evaluated the pros and cons of each site. I have not even heard of the last three so I will check them out. Thanks!

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